First you
get the arrogant-know-it-all’s. People who think the world revolve
around their little lives and I say little because that is exactly what it is.
They have reached 21 years and that is where they got stuck. They struggle
through life looking for all the right things in all the wrong places. If they
weren’t so blinded by their own importance maybe they would have figured it out
by now. These are the people you can’t tell anything. They know a little about
something, maybe due to work experience and now they think they know it all. Some
of them had noble purposes in life, but because they choose to surround
themselves with arrogant-know-it-all’s, it has rubbed off on them. They don’t take criticism well at all,
because that usually comes a little too close to the truth. Put a little money
in the stew and suddenly they think they have the right as well to shunt people
around. They like to demand instead of ask. No please and thank you for these
people. I have no time for people like that.
You cannot
talk to people like that. They won’t even consider your point of view, because
they already know better. When they open their mouths they like to sound
important. There is nothing more irritating than someone inflating himself and
his own importance/knowledge. They often will take a situation/thought and
twist and turn it until it suits their purpose, kind of take only what they want
to make them look good or to justify what they do. Most of them will lie if it
suites their purpose. I think most of
them are just little boys and girls trying to swim in the big old ocean, but
sinking half of the time and because they already” know how to swim”, they
won’t let you teach them. These are the people that will die one day and only
their arrogant-know-it-all family will make the effort to be at their funeral.
Despite all their efforts they will die one day without having made their mark
in life. We should feel sorry for people
like that because despite their material wealth they are probably the poorest
of poor.
Another type
of person I want to avoid at all cost is the “Ja –broer”
type. You get the
plain and simple untrustworthy person. You know them, no secret about them.
Then you get the person that will go through all the trouble of arranging
something with you, agreeing to something or promising something, making all the
right noises and at the last minute they back track with some stupid excuse
that you can see coming from a mile is a lie. First time you might believe
them, the second time you give them the benefit of the doubt and by the third
time you’re just plain pissed off because you know they think you’re stupid
enough to believe their bullshit and because they constantly waste your
valuable time. After that you should just
accept its part of who they are and stop wasting your energy getting angry and
your time trying to organise anything with them, you just pity them for being
so ignorant that they think people don’t see right through them. These are the
people that end up all alone because no one likes having a friend that’s no
friend at all.
Then there
are the ticking-time-bombs. These people appear calm and
collected, but oh boy they will explode at the slightest provocation. I say
provocation with my tongue in my cheek. The one minute they will be smiling and
the next they go off. Often over stuff that were their fault to begin with.
They also can justify very well. Nothing is ever their fault. These are the
people that will become abusive, physically and verbally, depending on their
state of mind. Of course afterwards their violence was either your fault or a
figment of your imagination. They will turn the situation around and make you
the guilty one. In my opinion they are dangerous because you never know what
will set them off. They are also dangerous because they can appear to be in
control, but underneath they are a raging storm.
Another type
to be avoided is the con-man. You never have disagreements with
them because they never say anything to annoy you. They say what they think you
want to hear. They sweet talk you into thinking they are your best buddy. They
are basically just big fat liars. They will help you into the grave with a big
fat smile on their face, making you feel good about your decent to hell. They
know all the tricks in the book, only showing of them what they deem necessary
to turn the situation in their favour. These people are selfish manipulators.
They don’t care about anybody other than them self. It’s all about their needs. If you are unfortunate enough to become
friends with them, they will surely stab you in the back. Once you’re lying on
the ground with the knife sticking out of your back, their ugly true persona
usually shows itself. That will be a good time to kick oneself on the butt for
being so stupid to be conned by them. A lesson learnt never to be forgotten
again. Trouble with these people are that they are so good at what they do,
having made it their mission in life to go through life riding on the backs of
others, that the chances of running into one of them again and not knowing it
is always a possibility. You also run the risk of becoming a cynic after
becoming one of their victims. Do not let a few despicable people make you lose
your trust in human beings as a rule.
Then there
is the never-get-of-their-butt type. Some of these people just don’t have
any vision or goal for their lives. The other side of the coin is the just-too-lazy-to-do-anything
people. They want it all, but they want it the easy way, riding on
the backs of other people. If you have to deal with these people you can be
sure that sooner or later you will be labelled a nag. They will put of things
until you eventually just give up and let it go. They don’t believe in the
satisfaction of doing something for themselves. They cannot fathom the idea of
working your butt off and at the end of the day standing back and experiencing
the pride of having achieved something by yourself. It’s a completely foreign concept
to them. They usually get something for nothing and eventually have the
attitude that the world owes them. They are lazy people that will use people
without feeling a twinge of quilt about it. On their own they will never
achieve anything of value.
Negative people are also to be avoided. They
will pull you down into their own pit of pessimism, negativity and depression. I’m
not talking about people with real depression now, although these people can
quite easily turn YOU into a totally depressed person. They have no hope and no
faith. They complain about everything. They do not appreciate anything. They
usually don’t believe in anything. They are the type that will build a home
under their home, stashing it with food for just in case war breaks up. They
don’t see the beauty in anything. For them the glass is always half empty. Do
not let these people take the sunshine out of your day.
Then there
are the professional- critics/judges. Everything you do or say is wrong.
You will never be able to satisfy them. I think they are so judgemental because
they feel so insecure. Don’t even try and satisfy them, because you will end up
losing your own confidence. Any criticism from someone else is seen as a direct
attack on them, doesn’t matter that it might be positive criticism. They will
never be able to better themselves because they are so tuned into your mistakes
that they cannot see their own mistakes.
Do not let other people’s attitude towards humanity
and life in general, define who you are, define who and what you are yourself
and live life to the fullest.
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